You can set up a message for your daughter's wedding day now, even if that day is still years away and even if you don't yet know when it will be or with whom. You write, speak or film the message at a time that suits you, link it to her name and to the event 'wedding day' instead of to a fixed date, and it will be delivered as soon as that day actually arrives.
That is precisely why this works differently than an ordinary letter you put in a drawer. A letter in a drawer waits for someone to happen to find it. A message you record via a time capsule service waits for the moment itself, and it actually arrives at that moment, with your voice or your handwriting attached, exactly as you intended it.
Why now, while the date is not yet set
The tricky thing about a message for your child's wedding day is that you usually don't know the date. She may be twelve now, or twenty-two, or not even engaged yet. Still, you don't want to wait until it becomes concrete, because the very thought that you have left something behind for when the time comes gives you peace of mind. That is why something like this does not work with a calendar date, but with an event: you set it so the message is ready for 'the day she gets married', and a trusted buddy or the system itself ensures that it is released at that moment, whenever that may be.
You can in that way set up a message for a future event without having to choose an exact date in advance. The message waits safely, and you don't need to think about it again until someone activates it.
What you can put in such a message
Most parents who do this do not write a long speech. They write what they would want to say on that day if they were standing beside her: how proud they are, what they hope for the marriage, a memory of her as a little girl that has nothing to do with the wedding but everything to do with who she is. Some add advice about a good marriage, others leave everything out and write only that they are there, in their own way.
You can also choose not only to leave words behind, but also your voice. Especially if you are worried that a written letter won't convey how it sounds when you say it, it helps to record her voice or your stories and keep them for later, so that the message on the wedding day can not only be read but also heard, in your own intonation.
More than a letter: a gift that arrives on time
A message is not enough for many parents. They also want something tangible: a piece of jewellery that has been in the family for generations, a bottle of wine to open together after the ceremony, or simply a gift voucher for the honeymoon. You can arrange that now as well, regardless of the question when the wedding will take place exactly. You can set up a gift now for that specific day, so that it does not arrive at a random moment but precisely when it should: on the morning of the wedding, or right after the ceremony.
The nice thing about this combination of message and gift is that it no longer requires any action from you at the actual moment. You don't need to remember when the wedding is, nobody needs to call you to arrange it. It is ready, waiting for the signal that the day has arrived.
How you set it up in practice
The practical part is simpler than the emotional part. You create an account, choose the recipient, write or record the message, and link it to the event instead of to a date. After that, you designate someone who may release the message at the right moment, usually someone close to your daughter who will know when the wedding day actually takes place. If you want to see exactly how those steps fit together, then read how the whole process works in practice from recording to delivery.
When the moment finally arrives
On the day itself, for everyone around your daughter, nothing special happens on the surface. There is a ceremony, a celebration, perhaps tears of joy. But in the background, at that moment, a message is released that has been ready for years, written on a day when you thought of it and she had no idea who she would marry. That is what is special about these kinds of messages: they are not bound to when you write them, but to when she needs them.
Would you like to set aside a first message for that day? You can start for free at Bruidswarenhuis and in a few minutes capture your first message for your daughter's wedding day, without knowing yet when that day will come.